Bravo. May I add that males and females are culturally conditioned to play their gender roles, and our self-esteem is attached to how well we play out these patterns. Typically males are conditioned to feel their value through conquest, materially, sexually, in families and all human settings. Women, typically are conditioned to feel their value in how well they are accepted and supported by males as well as in competition with other females.

Hense the conflict over "feminism" (seen as a threat to male domination)flourishes and when confronted by homosexuality, this constitutes a threat to one's gender role, and, as in all other forms of oppression, drives the bias, judgment and abuse against the "different" ones.

The painful truth is that if there were no laws, or potential for punishment, against identity abuse, there would be wide spread gangs of males (supported by many females) terrorizing, injuring and killing "gays" and lesbians.

Slowly society is learning, and your contribution adds greatly to this, Jack Donner

My own experience's have taught me that a human is a human, regardless of the variations. All basically want the same things in life. Peace of mind and security - friends to hang with - a meaningful relationship - something to do that makes us feel useful and productive - someone to grow old with.
The psycho/sexual conditioned identity of the individual, is just that, individual. Because of the conditioning of those that raise up or that we are exposed to, we are imprinted by their accepted social/sexual expression, which becomes our own. Its maximum influence on our own behavior, is when we have our first conscious stimulation from another's sexual expression and then sexual inter-action in any -physical/emotional/psychological- combination possible. For it is at that moment that our own, "Sexual Awareness" fully opens. Imprinting us with the sights, sounds, smells, feelings and actions of that moment. These become our basic imprinted factors for sexual stimulation. This basic imprinting can be added to, if one cares for someone deeply enough, "But it can not be undone".
To have satisfying sexual encounters, our basic imprinting must be inter-woven within our experience. The more factors the greater the stimulation, the fewer, then less stimulation. Thus another important portion of our expression of being is established, "Sexual Self Image".
Accepted social/sexual identity and our individual sexual self image formulates our own sexual expression. Depending on the degree of dichotomy between these two factors, many of us grow up with and then act out a shame and guilt based expression, of this important and significant portion of our "Individual Being". If there is sufficient dichotomy between these two factors, stress forces us to revert to our basic imprinting for relief, within the physical body. But we can only get to our imprinted release, by at times going around our accepted social/sexual identity. Therefor we tend to lull our self with intoxicants to numb our guilt. Caused in large part, by shame over differences in our two formulation factors. One conditioned and subject to change, the other imprinted permanently and can only be added to.
We must each experience a full and complete range of satisfaction from our own sexual release, within a culturally accepted sexual identity. If not then it causes extreme preoccupation and a great amount of psycho/emotional pain from self hate, for not controlling our thoughts and then our actions. Forcing addictive/compulsive dependency on individuals, to a great number of things. Unless addressed, it will stand in the way of any individual's healthy, "Integrated Expression".
No one has the choice as to when, where or how our basic sexual imprinting takes place. Far too many have our sexual awareness and basic imprinting forced on us, at to early an age. By the sexual immaturity and confusion of another, acted out on us. Since we have no say so as to when or what our imprinting will be, we should not have to feel any shame or guilt about what it is that thrills us. No one should have to feel self conscious, guilty or ashamed about what we can add to, but not change about our, "Individual-Sexual Expression".
It has been my observation that the ones that most care about others sexual expressions, are those most conflicted by the dichotomy between their own two formulation factors, within their self. When people are content with their own sexual satisfied, then they have no want or reason to put their nose where it doesn't belong - under the covers of another persons bed!