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Low self esteem is a symptom, of an unresolved self image issue, within our own life. About what we feel that we deserve in life. And yes, there are many different experiences that each individual has, their own unique conditioning, that contributed to this low sense of self value. All our individual experiences and their effects, adds up to our self expression in life. And those that were suppose to love us and want only the best for us, were the ones that used and abused and conditioned us to feel the way that we do. Getting beyond this training is not easy, full of high emotional content and denial. But if one persists with processing back through all of the emotionally charged events in one's life, then it is possible to get beyond this way of perceiving one's self. After all, we each are the only ones that live our life, know what has happened to us and how it has affected us.
Processing must be done within a now time frame of understanding, as a neutral, third party observer and without guilt or blame. Just observing what happened again, everyone's role in it, the feelings that were felt by each and without judgment. Then allow it to rest, it can't be forced, allowing your self time to unconsciously process the information gleaned. This is not the end of it, for it takes a long time to become conditioned and it takes time to over-lay it with new conditioning.(our own now opinion) And each time we become conscious of again acting out a symptom of low self esteem, of which there are many, revisit the cause in the same manner. Remember that those that conditioned us, were acting out what they themselves experienced, but were not strong enough to end it. Over time it will begin to resolve its self within our lives, as our new now perspective and understanding, gains strength. The act of catching our self each time we are doing what doesn't work for us and then embracing our own opinions and feelings about what happened, will continue to reinforce and strengthen the healing. In time, symptoms will no longer be act out, within our self expression in life.
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