For two people to have and maintain a healthy relationship, over a long period of time, takes two complete individuals. Individuals that are working on resolving their own issues. (It's not about where you are-it's about if your going or not?) Personal unresolved issues and the symptoms acted out because of those issues, are what sabotage a relationship. Takes two people with their own life and interests, that they are working on and still choose to spend time together. With a mind set that it is us against the world, what can I do for you, to help with yours. Then each has someone to depend on for help when needed. Someone to discuss what it is that's going on in their life and how it is going. Knowing that each can be trusted, to only talk about what is going on between them, with each other and no one else! (intimacy) Someone that can be trusted, that is on their side to give them their honest perspective on things, even when you don't like what you hear. Each remembering to appreciate and thank each other, for what it is that the other does to help, Even the small things! Consideration didn't go out of style, it is just under used at this time. Especially in relationships!